December 2018 Newsletter

A Word from Lesley
TimeNorfolk Director

Dear All,

I can hardly believe that as I am writing this article it is nearly Christmas and 2018 is ending. What a busy year it has been for TimeNorfolk with many changes. In March we were joined by our new Head of Counselling, Lindsey Nettleton. In September/October 5 new practitioners were trained and unfortunately in November we said goodbye to Ruth Kettle our fundraiser/events co-ordinator. The demand for our services continues and the percentage of referrals from the hospitals and health professionals is increasing.

We held our annual Baby Loss Awareness training day in October at Greenacres. This was attended by over 60 Health Professionals and Funeral Directors. This was very successful with high scores from the attendees on the evaluation sheets. Our Doorway of Hope Service in October was attended by over 100 people, it was a very moving and sensitive service and very encouraging to have people stay after the service to join us for a coffee and to speak to the TimeNorfolk team.

At the beginning of December, I received a letter from the EDP Stars of Norfolk Awards stating that TimeNorfolk was a finalist. I, Lindsey and Fred attended the awards ceremony, what a very humbling evening and a privilege to meet with and learn more about the different charities and people who were winners and finalists. Here in Norfolk there are so many amazing and selfless people.

I am sure you are all aware that TimeNorfolk will be opening an office in Gt. Yarmouth, I have been spending time there meeting with other organisations and am pleased to say that at the time of writing we are in the middle of securing premises which is very exciting. Watch this space!

I wish you all a blessed Christmas and a Peaceful 2019 and thank you for all your support in 2018.

Warm wishes

lesley

Lesley Bradfield
TimeNorfolk Director


News

Training Developments

Since our last newsletter we have had our new volunteer’s training course that ran through September, October and into November. Over eight weeks we explored how TimeNorfolk supports clients through their grief whether as a result of miscarriage, stillbirth or termination. Despite the emotional nature of the topics the evening training sessions were enjoyable due to the enthusiasm and engagement of the participants.

Following the completion of this course we are pleased to welcome back Sue supporting clients on a Wednesday evening and are grateful to have Olivia, Vicky, Grainne and Amber all beginning to support clients through 1-1 support or co-facilitating groups in the new year.

We now hope to run the course again and have some people already waiting to start in the Spring of 2019. This is hugely encouraging as our referrals continue to rise and we are keen to meet the needs of those seeking support as swiftly as possible.

Continuing Professional Development

We also had a Continuing Professional Development Day for new and existing volunteers at the end of November. This day included sessions on how to support clients at risk of suicide and how to support clients pregnant following a loss. But for me the highlight was having Kari Kordomeikel, the Bereavement Midwife from NNUH, come to introduce herself and share her plans for a Rainbow Clinic at the Hospital. It was hugely encouraging to hear of the changes she is making and the care that parents will have received directly from her, or as a result of her efforts, before they reach us.

Next year we are planning some further CPD in the Spring to increase our ability to support bereaved couples. Currently at TimeNorfolk, bereaved parents are seen together for their initial appointment and then separately for 1-1 support. For many this would be their choice but for those who would like to be supported as a couple we are planning to be able to offer this after Easter as a result of having a highly experienced external trainer in to develop our skills in this important area.


Past Client’s Story

Below is piece recently written for an article in the EDP by a previous client to raise the profile of the new Bereavement Suite at the NNUH. TimeNorfolk have a Virgin Money Givingpage (www.virginmoneygiving.com/fund/NNUHMaternityBereavementSuite), the money raised from this will go towards the new bereavement suite at the NNUH along with other money received by TimeNorfolk from funding bids.

It was on my due date that I felt reduced movements from my baby. I went to the hospital where I was given a scan and given the news no parent wants to hear ‘my baby had died’. When I delivered Luna-Mai my daughter I was in the room at the end of delivery suite which was the bereavement room that they had then, it was very clinical. It was so difficult having to walk past all the normal delivery rooms to one at the end of the corridor knowing there were woman in labour with their babies.

It was extremely difficult for my family who were coming to visit me, Ryan and Luna-Mai as they were having to walk past happy families leaving with their babies too. If there was a bereavement suite away from the normal delivery it would give the family that extra peace needed at such a terrible time. When I was in the late stages of labour with Luna-Mai I heard a new born baby cry and it was just an added heartache to what I was already enduring. This suite could really make the difference for bereaved families helping them get through such a devastating time.”


Fundraising

At the end of December, we say goodbye to being Howe’s Percival’s charity of the year. It has been a pleasure to work with them, they have been so supportive of us – a big THANK YOU for all the money they have raised from all at TimeNorfolk.

Christmas Cards

Our TimeNorfolk Christmas cards have been selling well. Thank you to Tessa Killingbeck for designing them and to Swallowtail printers for donating the printing of them.


Christmas Tree

TimeNorfolk was invited to display a tree amongst other charities at St. Peter Mancroft church in Norwich this was on display between the 29th November and the 3rd December.

TimeNorfolk Christmas Tree

TimeNorfolk’s Christmas Tree

EDP Stars Awards Evening

Stars of Norfolk and Waveney Awards

Stars of Norfolk & Waveney awards

August 2018 Newsletter

A Word from Lesley
TimeNorfolk Director

Dear All,

TimeNorfolk remains in demand as ever with an ever-increasing number of clients coming through our door for our services. I have been busy attending many different events on behalf of TimeNorfolk to raise our profile and it is always a delight to attend something which has been put on by one of our past clients who want to give something back, such as the vintage coffee morning recently hosted by Samantha.

I felt very humbled recently to attend a meeting of the Maternity Voices Partnership where I was able to bring a client with me who shared her story of loss. She was so courageous and It is always a significant moment when service users are able to voice their feedback. I see it as being incredibly important when attending these meetings that we are able to make a difference in maternity services for future families who experience loss.

Although we continue to be busy we have seen fewer teenage clients needing support around an unplanned pregnancy. This is reflected in a report I recently received which states that ‘teenage pregnancy rates have fallen by 55% in the last decade to their lowest ever level’. If you would like to read the full report you can do so here: https://www.bpas.org/about-our-charity/press-office/press-releases/bpas-report-released-on-the-decline-in-teenage-pregnancy-rates/

Enjoy the rest of your summer,

Best Wishes

lesley

Lesley Bradfield
TimeNorfolk Director


News

Changes

We have been sad to say goodbye to two volunteers this July, Liza and Linda and we wish them all the best in what comes next for them, they are already missed. We welcome back Aimee who has begun seeing clients in Great Yarmouth this month. Aimee has been with TimeNorfolk for many years and is returning after a break. It was lovely to meet her for the first time a few weeks ago, she is such a gentle and warm person who will be an asset to our team. The commitment of Sundari, Aimee and Margaret being willing to support our clients in Kings Lynn, Great Yarmouth and Beccles is of great value to clients beyond Norwich and makes us truly TimeNorfolk.

Training developments

Lindsey is currently very busy preparing training for various events happening this Autumn. The new Volunteer Training Programme is shaping up and we have been greatly encouraged by the support and enthusiasm of others in offering their experience and knowledge. We now have potentially 6 additional volunteers emerging from this Autumn’s training to enable us to see more clients on a weekly basis in groups and 1-1 support sessions.

We are also providing a workshop for the Parent and Baby Show on Sunday 16th September at the UEA Sportspark. This will focus particularly on pregnancy anxiety, aiming to help build confidence around the idea of pregnancy for those who are starting or growing a family. This will be an exciting opportunity to raise awareness of TimeNorfolk and to engage with parents to be as they look to the future. (https://www.theparentandbabyshow.co.uk/product/norwichs-largest-premium-baby-show-uea-sportspark-16th-september-book-your-tickets-here/)


Client Story

When I contacted TimeNorfolk I would say I was at my very lowest point in my life, I had a hysterectomy about 6 years ago due to an error. I think for those years leading to me contacting TimeNorfolk I didn’t deal with what happened at all. I just swept it under the carpet. The anger, the sadness, the feeling a failure that I couldn’t have anymore children was all too much.

My time with TimeNorfolk showed me that I can talk about it without feeling judged and that its ok to be angry and sad. It taught me that I needed to take time out to concentrate on making sure I’m ok because if i’m ok then my family life will be so much better. I spent so much time and energy focusing on everyone else and I was sinking and sinking into a terrible depression.

I can now see things so much clearer, there is light at the end of the tunnel, which I never thought I could get to again but slowly I am. I still have a few hurdles to get over but I know in time I will get there because I’m in a better place.


Events

Coming Up

Doorway of Hope Service

Doorway of Hope Service

18th October 2018 at 7.30pm – Norwich Cathedral

Please join us for a service of remembrance for all who have lost a baby, however long ago, through miscarriage, termination or stillbirth, as well as during the early months of life.

During this time, there will be an opportunity to light a candle and write a message in TimeNorfolk’s book of remembrance as we remember our little ones.

At TimeNorfolk we aim to spread hope following pregnancy loss and we know that our Doorway of Hope service can be an important part of the healing process after a loss. For many who have experienced loss they have never had an opportunity to say goodbye to their baby and this service enables them to do just that.

Teas and Coffees are served after the service and a member of TimeNorfolk will be available to talk to anyone affected by the loss of a baby.

Quiz at RiverGreen Café

13th November at 7pm – Trowse

Get the date in your diary & create your team ready for this fun evening!


Fundraising Events update

Over the summer we have had three fantastic fundraising events take place.

Firstly we had three very brave souls take part in our tandem sky dive in aid of TimeNorfolk.

Then we had the lovely Samantha Knight hold a delicious Vintage Coffee.

And last but not least we were privileged to be supported by Fuzion Thetford, the family fun day out. As part of this, TimeNorfolk hosted a fun dog show ‘sCruffs’ and a great day was had by all!

We really appreciate all the support we receive from people who take on fundraising challenges. We know that they take time, effort and energy to do so we are very thankful for each and every one of you. All money raised makes a real difference in the lives of those who have suffered pregnancy loss!

Spring 2018 Newsletter

A Word from Lesley
TimeNorfolk Director

Dear All,

Last time I wrote to you it was snowing and now is is a little more like spring, despite the rain there is an amazing backdrop of greenery and everything bursting forth.

I would like to welcome to TimeNorfolk our new Head of Counselling, Lindsey Nettleton.  Lindsey has been with us now for eight weeks and is settling in well. I am sure Lindsey will be a great asset to TimeNorfolk, Lindsey introduces herself later in this newsletter.

Here at TimeNorfolk we continue to be busy with new clients coming through in a steady stream, our termination support  group is three quarters of the way through and is proving to be very successful.  We have four new volunteers, Olivia  is one of these and has started by coming into the office to help with administration and will then go on to become a placement student and support clients face to face. I was thinking at the time of writing this article what amazing volunteers we have and how they have been with TimeNorfolk for a considerable amount of time. Thank you to all of our volunteers!

As well as busy being with clients we  know that raising awareness of pregnancy loss and the work of TimeNorfolk is important too. Lindsey accompanied me  recently to a GP surgery to deliver a presentation to medical students about the work that we do, and how loss can affect our clients. We also have a group of student health visitors coming into TimeNorfolk in May for some training.

There is lots more to tell you about the good things that have been going on and that are coming up so do read to the end!

Thank you for all your support!

Best Wishes

lesley

Lesley Bradfield
TimeNorfolk Director


Bereavement Suite Update

The Norfolk & Norwich University Hospital has appointed a  full-time bereavement midwife for the first time. Lesley has met with her and feels excited about how passionate she is about her new role, she has a wealth of experience which can only be of benefit to patients that have suffered a loss.

Lesley will be working with the new bereavement midwife on the Bereavement Suite. There have been two planning meetings about the suite and Lesley hopes  to see two Bereavement Suites in different parts of the country to see how they work. This is a much needed part of the Maternity Unit at the NNUH and may help parents and our clients during what is a very traumatic experience for them.


Miles in May Begins Tomorrow!

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Miles In May 2018 starts tomorrow and it’s not too late to sign up if you’d like to take part!

Could you challenge yourself this May to complete an amount of miles that is significant to you, in memory of a little one gone too soon or to raise awareness of the work of TimeNorfolk.

Gemma is taking part and says:

‘Time Norfolk helped me through a very sad time. I’m doing this to raise money for them so they can continue to help others who’ve experienced such loss. I’m also doing this in memory of my little angel – to make him proud.’

For full information and to sign up please visit https://timenorfolk.org.uk/milesinmay2018


New Head of Counselling Lindsey Nettleton

Hi, I’m Lindsey. I joined the TimeNorfolk family 8 weeks ago at the beginning of March.  I am a BACP Registered Counsellor with 20 years of experience working therapeutically with men and women in the community, in prisons and in residential settings, mainly in terms of treatment for addiction.  I live locally in Norwich with my husband and two young daughters.

I am finding the work here so varied and am enjoying developing relationships with volunteers, staff and clients.  The nature of engaging with those suffering pregnancy loss is inevitably emotional.  I am invariably moved by the rawness of grief and each client’s vulnerability in their experience of birth and death.  It is a great privilege and responsibility to be witness to,  it is my hope that our capacity to companion others through their darkest moments may help them feel that bit less alone.

I have been so impressed by the commitment and passion of the volunteers who give so much more than time to the work.  Their enthusiasm for TimeNorfolk and genuine care for one another speaks volumes of the love that has been invested and nurtured here for years.  I hope to add to that investment by encouraging and developing training opportunities for those working with clients.  At the moment there is a focus on developing training for new volunteers but also looking ahead to Continuing Professional Development days for volunteers and those in the wider community.  Pregnancy loss affects so many,  I have heard several times during the past few weeks how painful it is for those grieving to not have their loss recognised and respected by society.  Seeing how Lesley advocates for our client’s needs within hospitals and the wider community is exciting, as we hope to influence those with the means to make improvements to the care of others when they are at their most vulnerable.


Past Client Story

My time at TimeNorfolk has been filled with ups and downs, from the first session I attended to the last one –to-one. Our sessions veered from sobbing, choking tears when I struggled to find the words, to laugher and love, and very bittersweet and difficult emotion in-between. I have worked to recognise, understand and process my feelings, thoughts and events. Things that I could not do with anyone else. I am still dealing with some echoes of ‘what ifs’, feelings of guilt and responsibility, and recognising that there may always be a part of me with my babies. That I will never be the same as before I became a mum – the first, second, third, fourth or fifth time – but I now realised that I am still me, just a changed me. That this different ‘me’ has grown in so many ways because of my babies, because of each and everyone

I now recognise the strength and resilience I have build throughout the past 6 or more years. I recognise that strength comes, in part, from allowing myself time and space to feel those feelings which I had hidden away. To give them their own space, to recognise them and express them in the way I can. I have also come to realise that I am still working through things, but now I have the awareness and skills to do that, and this may be a lifelong journey. Because, and most importantly for me, I now realise how I can live with all my babies around me – those present physically or spiritually – and that they will always be part of me and have made me into the person I am today.

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TimeNorfolk Sky Dive

Sky Dive 7th July 2018

Could you take to the skies in aid of TimeNorfolk!?

We have a group of brave people lined up to take part in a tandem sky dive on 7th July, would you like to join them?

Harriet took part last year and says:

‘I had an amazing time seeing all of Norfolk and Suffolk from the air all at once. It was a very easy process with a lovely instructor who does all the work! I would definitely go again!!’

For full details click here: https://timenorfolk.org.uk/skydive2018


TimeNorfolk at the London Marathon

On 22nd April Chrissie ran the 26.2 miles around the London Marathon in aid of TimeNorfolk.

It was the hottest London Marathon on record and Chrissie had been struggling with an injury but she still ran those stars to the finish line and we are all very proud of Chrissie here at TimeNorfolk!

Chrissie was carrying 12 very precious stars on her vest, each star represented a little one gone too soon. Thank you to everybody who sponsored a star, or supported Chrissie in any way throughout her training and on the day.
Running a marathon is a huge commitment and we would like to say a huge thank you to Chrissie for the time, energy and creativity she has put into running the London Marathon in aid of TimeNorfolk.

If you would still like to support Chrissie it is not too late, you can find her sponsorship page along with some of her updates here: https://uk.virginmoneygiving.com/ChrissieBoswell


Vintage Coffee Morning

One of our supporters Sam, is hosting a Vintage Coffee Morning on 21st July at Poringland Village Hall 9am-11.30 am in aid of TimeNorfolk!

Get the date in your diary & pop along on the day for some delicious cake, all in aid of TimeNorfolk!


Howes Percival Charity of 2018

As a result of a nomination and  a staff vote, TimeNorfolk was selected as charity of 2018 for the Howes Percival Norwich Office.

Our friends at Howes Percival have been busy fundraising in aid of TimeNorfolk, including holding a pancake day sale, a bake sale, a formula one sweepstake and raffling a signed NCFC shirt. (With thanks to Alan Boswell Group for the generous donation of the shirt!)

The charity committee at Howes Percival are absolutely fantastic and have lots more fundraising ideas up their sleeves for the rest of 2018. Thank you Howes Percival!!


Can we keep in touch?

New laws relating to data protection (will be known as GDPR – General Data Protection Regulation) come into force on 25th May 2018 and here at TimeNorfolk we are working hard to ensure that we are compliant!

One of the ways that we are working to be compliant is to ensure that we have your consent to send you our newsletters and news of exciting events coming up.

If you would like to stay in the loop with all TimeNorfolk is doing to support those who have suffered pregnancy loss we need to ask you to sign up again to our mailing list.

If you have already responded to an email asking you to sign up again in response to new regulations – thank you! You don’t need to sign up again.


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Summer 2017 Newsletter

Hello From Lesley…

Hello,

At the time of writing this we are going into August and I can hardly believe where this year has gone.  Timenorfolk continues to be busy with new clients, groups and some large events coming up for us in the Autumn, which are listed below.

a suitcase in meadowOne thing that is happening at TimeNorfolk is the involvement of client’s that have finished their work with TimeNorfolk and want to give something back. It is so encouraging to us all when a client finishes and they ‘tick the box’ to say that they want to become involved in the future with TimeNorfolk.

I have attended several meetings at the NNUH over the last couple of months for the Maternity Services Users Liaison committee and Midwifery Services Users committee, where I can become the ‘voice of our clients’.  Through this in July we had a group of 8 student midwives come into our Norwich centre as part of their placement.  They met with 3 clients who told their stories and then answered questions from  the student midwives. The students learnt about the work that TimeNorfolk does and the importance of the role that a midwife plays when a patient has a baby loss.

Do read on for updates from the summer as well an exciting new project we are involved with and dates for your diary.

lesley


Past Client Story

I had a mental health support worker who put me in touch with TimeNorfolk, and my life changed. It’s sad to me that I had to fall so far before anyone noticed. I was worried going to my first appointment with Jane*, but she was amazing. She listened and she cared; she told me everything was going to be OK and I started to believe her. We talked about everything over the next few months, and slowly but surely I started to see what I had been doing to myself over the years, and how I needed to change my perception of me.

Our time has come to an end now, and I leave a stronger and more self-aware person. I know I will have peaks and drops, but I know what to do now, and how to cope. Most of all I know where to go to get the help and support should I need it. Thank you, Time, for getting me back on track; I hope more doctors and nurses learn of you and take the time to help others like me.


NNUH Norfolk Lavender Suite

The Norfolk & Norwich University Hospital recognise the need for a bereavement suite for people who have experienced a loss during the latter part of their pregnancy.

TimeNorfolk will be working with the NNUH to help fund and shape The Norfolk Lavender Suite. We are aware from our clients feedback that although nothing can change their situation, finding themselves in a clinical room when you have just received the devastating news that your baby has died is not ideal.

We are aiming to create a space which is calming, tranquil, comfortable and private with access to things that might be needed  to make this traumatic time more manageable and give bereaved parents one less thing to think about.

This room will enable TimeNorfolk to reach people at the time of their loss rather than months later.

TimeNorfolk have been successful in being selected as one of three charities for John Lewis Community Matters, any funding we receive through Community Matters will go towards the Norfolk Lavendar Suite.

You can play a part in creating the Norfolk Lavendar Suite by voting for TimeNorfolk in the Norwich John Lewis Store. You will find the Community Matters box in the catering area where from August  you can place your green token in the box to make your vote count.


Training

book and pencil

Level 2 Certificate in counselling skills
Application deadline 15th August

Here at TimeNorfolk we are passionate about counselling, we believe that done well, counselling has the potential to change lives for the better. This is why we put part of our energies into offering counselling skills training, we love to train our own practitioners but also enjoy opening our training to others outside of TimeNorfolk.

If you are interested in taking the first step towards becoming a trained counsellor, this could be for you.

This qualification is designed to give learners the underpinning knowledge, skills and competencies to use counselling skills ethically and safely in a variety of contexts and roles.

This qualification is for:

Those starting the first level of training as a professional counsellor
Those who want to learn counselling skills in other professional or helping roles
Those who want to improve their professional and personal relationships as part of personal development.

For more information please click here:
https://timenorfolk.org.uk/news/level-2-certificate-counselling-skills-csk-l2/


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Sky Dive

TimeNorfolk Sky Divers after their jump

What a beautiful day we had for our Sky Dive!

We arrived at UK Parachuting, Beccles to blue skies and 6 very nervous but excited ladies ready to jump for TimeNorfolk!

After a briefing & a little wait the TimeNorfolk team went up in 2 planes and flew to the coast and back gaining a height of approximately 2 miles. This took around 15 minutes and during that time friends and family were on the ground trying to spot the plane!

Eventually we saw some tiny dots begin to fall from the sky. After around 30 seconds of free fall the parachutes opened and each one glided gracefully down to the ground. Once they’d dusted themselved off they were greeted by friends and family as well as a glass of bubbly to celebrate!

It was a great experience for everybody involved and some ladies even said they would do it again!

Midwife Suzy Hankinson shares why she took part in the jump:

‘I was lucky enough to spend a morning with the wonderful team at TimeNorfolk earlier this year during my midwifery training where I witnessed first-hand the incredible work they do to help women and men after pregnancy loss. As a small local charity, they rely heavily on volunteers and fundraising to continue this work, so how could I turn down an opportunity to leap out a plane, 2 miles up to help raise funds! Luckily I have some crazy friends, so I wont be alone up there as Vini New, Jenny Marris, Mei Lee Dunleavy and Jackie Turner also jumped at the chance of raising money for TimeNorfolk. I have seen first-hand how pregnancy loss deeply affects the lives of so many people; the free service offered at TimeNorfolk helps couples work through their own experience and their grief by offering counselling, compassion and time. ‘

Watch a slideshow of photos from the day here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wvDLTbRSn_A


40 Miles In May Update

During May 20 people took part in completing 40 Miles in a way that was a challenge to them and raised over £4000 for TimeNorfolk!
A lot of people gave up time and energy to complete 40 Miles in May in aid of TimeNorfolk. All the money raised will go towards supporting people following pregnancy loss in either in one to one or group sessions.
If you are interested in volunteering at a fundraising event or holding your own fundraising event please email ruth@timenorfolk.org.uk.


Bishop’s House Garden Party

Photograph ©️Hayley Fearnley (http://www.hayleyfearnleyphoto.com)

Singers

Photograph ©️Hayley Fearnley (http://www.hayleyfearnleyphoto.com)

listening to stories

Photograph ©️Hayley Fearnley (http://www.hayleyfearnleyphoto.com)

Cakes

Photograph ©️Hayley Fearnley (http://www.hayleyfearnleyphoto.com)

We had a fantastic time at our Bishops House Garden Party on 11th June. Here are some of the wonderful photographs kindly taken by Hayley Fearnley (http://www.hayleyfearnleyphoto.com)

Click here for a full report and more photographs from the Bishop’s House Garden Party:
https://timenorfolk.org.uk/news/bishops-house-garden-party-11th-june-2017/


Dates For Your Diary

12th August Fuzion
Join us in Thetford for the Fuzion Colour Fest! More information Here:
http://www.fuzion.events/

9th September
Tesco fundraising Collection. Email ruth@timenorfolk.org.uk to get involved.

23rd September
Asda bag pack fundraiser. Email ruth@timenorfolk.org.uk to get involved.

9th – 15th October
Baby Loss Awareness Week, look out for client stories on our blog.

19th October 7.30pm
Doorway of Hope Service at Norwich Cathedral, more information to follow.

7th December 
Christmas Open Office 12-2
Pop into the office for mince pies and an opportunity to meet staff & volunteers in an informal setting.


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Spring 2017 Newsletter

Hello From Lesley…

What a wonderful few days of glorious sunshine and warm weather we are having at the time of writing this. Spring seemed to come overnight, I am amazed at the abundance of daffodils, spring bulbs and blossom that are out and so colourful.

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flowers

At the time of writing this, the first three months of 2017 has been extremely busy for TimeNorfolk.  An increased flow of clients coming through our doors and we have completed our first day of CPD training on grief (1) which was very successful.

It has been a busy time for me going out to several groups and organisations to give talks about TimeNorfolk and to raise awareness. March started off with Letitia and I giving a talk to student midwives at the UEA which we received good feedback from, the next week was followed by a visit to Mother’s Union at Hellesdon and then another talk to to Mother’s Union at Oulton Broad.  I am always made to feel so welcome by the Mother’s Union they are all a great group of ladies.  I then went on to give a talk to Wellbeing in Norwich, a lot of questions were asked about our service and how and who Wellbeing can refer to us. I have visited the N & N hospital 3 times for meetings within midwifery and EPAU and feel TimeNorfolk’s relationship with the hospital is really growing.

We all thank you for your continued support of TimeNorfolk.

lesley


Past Client Story

Past Client Story

The work we do at TimeNorfolk is best described by our clients, read on to hear how TimeNorfolk was able to help one client following the loss of their baby.

‘We were full of excitement for the routine scan to see our baby. We were unaware of what was about to unfold. In the moment we were told that our baby had no heartbeat our world fell apart. I had suffered a late miscarriage. I had labour induced and we prepared for the arrival of our baby in a way we never thought we would. We made decisions we never imagined. Inside I was screaming ‘NO NO NO!’ But the words got stuck.

Our beautiful baby was born still, she was beautiful and perfect in every way, we never heard her cry. We spent time with her, asked for her footprints as a momento and had to leave her. I’ll never forget the long journey home without our baby. My arms ached to hold her, I felt empty, part of me died too, I felt broken.

I tried to cope, put on a brave face but I felt as if I was slipping away, in turmoil with guilt and anger raging inside me I felt overwhelmed, I was in a dark place.

Frightened and isolated I called Time Norfolk and found a friendly voice. Time Norfolk gave me what I needed… Time. Time to work through my issues, reach a place of acceptance and deal with the guilt I felt for a loss I couldn’t prevent. My counsellor gently guided me through the journey, helped me re-focus and find my reasons to live – my family. I have a survival kit which helps me cope on a daily basis and a journal that helps me find my voice.

Getting this far has been hard and I’ll be honest, without TimeNorfolk it would be a very different story. I am not the person I was, I accept that my baby loss is part of me. Counselling helped me realise that my baby may be gone physically but we are always connected and our bond is never broken even though we are apart. Our baby is part of our family, a daughter, a sister, a grandchild. She exists, she was born to me and I carry her in my heart forever until we can be together again.


TimeNorfolk Evening Party

TimeNorfolk Evening Party

On 23rd February we held our their third annual TimeNorfolk evening party at the Virgin Lounge. This year the focus was on giving thanks to all those who have supported TimeNorfolk over the year. The Mayor of Norwich and Councillor Gail Harris were present to hear past clients stories of how TimeNorfolk helped them through their experiences of pregnancy loss  along with local businesses, organizations and volunteers who during the evening were thanked for their support and fundraising efforts throughout the past year. Without the support of Time volunteers and local businesses TimeNorfolk would not be able to provide the service that is so vital to many men and women across Norfolk.
We would like to thank Soprano Emma Nuule for entertaining us with her wonderful singing and also Wendy Spaul for the incredible amount of hard work she put into creating stunning canapes for our guests to enjoy on the evening.


New Volunteer

My name is Linda Barden and I have just come on board as a volunteer with TimeNorfolk.

Linda BardenBoth my husband and myself have a mutual interest in volunteering for the 100th Bomb Group Memorial Museum in Thorpe Abbotts, as well as being active members for the local U3A and related Waveney Valley Study Group.  My hobbies are reading, design work for flyers and presentations, swimming and play reading.

Between us, we have four grown up children, 7 grandchildren and a great grandchild on the way.
Before retirement, I had a varied career in secretarial / administrative work.  In the early part of my career I worked for a public relations company.  Two of our major clients were Whitbread and Stowells of Chelsea.  I was responsible for organising an annual art exhibition at the galleries in The Mall in London – with art work being displayed by art colleges all over the UK.  After my children were born, I worked for a local company for 17 years – progressing from a Marketing/Sales Secretary to a PA in the company secretarial department, before being made redundant in 2004.  I then found employment with the NHS, culminating in working as a secretary for a team responsible for caring for people over the age of 65 who were suffering with conditions such as Alzheimer’s Disease and dementia. I was responsible for assisting 20 members of staff.

We both retired from work in 2012, followed our dream of moving to Norfolk in 2013 and we have never regretted moving to the area.  We have made lots of new friends and lead busy and full lives.

I had an extremely difficult personal time in 2014 / 2015 when faced with being diagnosed with cancer (now, thankfully, recovered) and trying to cope with a very stressful family situation and was, thankfully, referred to Time Norfolk.  I received one-to-one sessions over a period of time and thanks to my counsellor, got back on the road to recovery, but in addition to this, found a new level of confidence and self-esteem.  This has enabled me to ‘come out of my shell’ and to continue to use the skills that I gained in my working life.

I am looking forward to this new opportunity of volunteering with TimeNorfolk and to working with such an incredible team of people.

I am eternally grateful to Time Norfolk for giving me back my life – they do such incredible work!


Fundraising Events Coming Up

River Green Cafe in Trowse are a high quality vegetarian & vegan restaurant and are very kindly hosting an evening of good food & fun for our TimeNorfolk Charity Quiz on 23rd May 6.30pm.

You are invited to join us for a fun evening of quizzing and for £20 you can enjoy canapes on arrival, a main meal & a dessert with the bar open throughout the evening to purchase drinks.

All money raised through this event will go to TimeNorfolk to support men & women following pregnancy loss.

Find yourself a team of six & email fundraising@timenorfolk.org.uk to purchase your tickets. Tickets must be bought in advance.


40 Miles in May

During the month of May we are inviting you to join us in our fundraising campaign ’40 Miles in May’.

Lizzie is taking part in the event, you can view her btmydonate page & read her reasons for taking part here:
https://mydonate.bt.com/fundraisers/lizzieruns80

For all the information you’ll need and to sign up please visit: https://timenorfolk.org.uk/get-involved/fundraising/40-miles-may-complete-40-miles-memory-loved-one-fundraise/


Bishop’s House Garden Party

Bishops House Garden

TimeNorfolk Bishop’s House Garden Party 11th June

On 11th June TimeNorfolk are holding a traditional  garden party in the garden of the Bishop of Norwich.
We will be serving cream teas and there will be a range of activities for adults & children including:

  • Hourly Storytime reading of ‘The Tiger Who Came to Tea’
  • Childrens craft & trail around the garden
  • Garden Games
  • Traditional Stalls
  • Raffle

The Tiger who came to tea

Performances from:

  • Soprano Emma Nuule
  • Norwich School Young Musicians
  • Harmummies Choir
  • Catton Community Choir

Can you help?
We are looking for volunteers to help the event run smoothly, we are also specifically looking for somebody to do facepainting. If you are able to help in any way on the day please email fundraising@timenorfolk.org.uk


skydive poster

TimeNorfolk Tandem Sky Dive 1st July 2017

Are you looking for a thrill!?  Why not join us for a tandem sky dive !?

This is your chance to jump out of a plane from 13,000 feet (approx 2 miles) high. Raise a minimum of  £300 in sponsorship & you can jump for free!

For more information and to sign up please visit the blog by clicking here:
https://timenorfolk.org.uk/news/timenorfolk-sky-dive-fundraiser-1st-july-2017/

February 2017 Newsletter

Although rather late I would like to wish everybody a peaceful and blessed 2017, Christmas seems a distant memory. I am sitting at my desk writing this with the sun streaming through the window and a definite feel that spring is just around the corner. I took the pictures above in my garden this morning.
January was off to a busy start seeing an increase of 57% in clients compared to January 2016. Several talks and training sessions are already booked in for 2017 and 2 new practitioners coming on board with us.
On the 4th February, we held the volunteers luncheon, although slightly down in numbers, as always was a lovely day, some of our new volunteers attended, it was great to see old and new volunteers meeting with each other and generally volunteers catching up.  It is also good for staff to be out of the work environment and to be able to chat to volunteers.  Some Trustees attended and served lunch and provided the desserts and did a wonderful job clearing up afterwards.
We are holding our 3rd TimeNorfolk evening party on the 23rd February at the Virgin lounge, this year is a thank you to businesses and people who have supported us and to raise awareness.

I hope you enjoy reading the newsletter, there is lots to tell you about!

lesley


Christmas 2016

Christmas seems like a long time ago now, however there is a lot to update you with as Christmas was a very busy time in the world of TimeNorfolk!
Lesley was invited to speak at both the Oak Grove Carol Service and the Norwich Salvation Army Carols by Candlelight Service. Both of these events were very well attended and were special occasions.
On a rainy Saturday in December a team of hardworking volunteers spent the day wrapping presents for the public at St. Stephens Church where we were raising money for the work of TimeNorfolk.
As well as that fantastic event, we were able to spend a day packing shopping for the public! We had a fantastic time at Morrisons bag packing along with some brilliant young people from the 8th Norwich Sea Scouts.
Over the Christmas period we were very fortunate to be recipients of some fundraising activities from local groups such as Fakenham Stepping Stones, Cathedral Group for Social Concerns and a local retailer Lisa Angel.  We were very grateful for each of these fundraising efforts and would like to extend our thanks and gratitude to everybody involved.


Work up a sweat in aid of TimeNorfolk!

running shoes

Are you still on track for your ‘New Years Resolutions?”

Perhaps a challenge would help you to stay motivated as we move into February. There a lots of great races you could take part in this year, here are just  a few to get you inspired. Why not gather a few friends and take part in a race as a challenge to yourself or in memory of a little one lost too soon?

Norwich Relay Triathlon – 9th July at Whitlingham Broad 

https://tri-anglia.primo-solutions.co.uk/ps/event/NorwichStandardDistanceTriathlon2017 

Gather a team of 3 of you & take part in the Norwich Relay Triathlon.

One of you will Swim 1500m, one will cycle 38km and on will run 10k.

There are limited spaces for teams so sign up quick!

City of Norwich Half Marathon 9th April starting at Norfolk Showground 

http://cityofnorwichhalfmarathon.com/ 

To run for TimeNorfolk register as an Unaffiliated Race Entry .

Run Norwich 10k  6th August  

http://www.runnorwich.co.uk/Enter 

Run 10k through Norwich City Centre. To run for TimeNorfolk you need to enter as an unaffiated general entrant.

Sign up for your race & set up your fundraising page here:
https://mydonate.bt.com/charities/timenorfolk

We would love to support you in your fundraising, if you are going to run for TimeNorfolk please do get in touch with ruth@timenorfolk.org.uk and we can chat through how we can best help you!


Events Coming Up

40 miles in May Facebook Personal Cover Photo

During the month of May we are inviting you to join us in our fundraising campaign ’40 Miles in May’. Official publicity will be released soon, however here is a taster of what we will be doing….

‘Complete 40 miles in memory of a loved one and raise money to support men and women following pregnancy loss.
Join us in running, walking, swimming, cycling, dog walking, paddling, skating, sailing or dancing our way to 40 miles.

Why 40 Miles?!
It costs us approximately £40 to provide a one to one, face to face support session. We want to raise funds so we can continue to provide men & women with many more of these £40 sessions and help people like this past client:

‘It is not an exaggeration to say that counselling saved me, it has, mentally and physically. I was in a very black place but I am now a lot calmer in my mind and I can now accept what has happened.’

Join us for a short walk to complete our 40 miles together 27th May 10.30am at Whitlingham Broad meeting outside the visitors centre. Bring a picnic & a flask of tea to enjoy together afterwards.

Visit www.mydonate.bt.com/events/40milesinmay/407112 to set up your fundraising page.


Bishops House Garden

On 11th June TimeNorfolk are holding a traditional English garden party in the garden of the Bishop of Norwich.
We will be serving cream teas and there will be a range of activities for adults & children such as storytime and craft for the children as well as a  trail around the garden. For the adults there will be stalls & musical entertainment throughout the afternoon.

We hope you will join us for the afternoon and if you would like to volunteer in any way on the day do please get in touch with lesley@timenorfolk.org.uk


skydive poster

TimeNorfolk Tandem Sky Dive 1st July 2017

Are you looking for a thrill!?  Why not join us for a tandem sky dive !?

This is your chance to jump out of a plane from 13,000 feet (approx 2 miles) high. Raise a minimum of  £300 in sponsorship & you can jump for free!

There will be more information about this event coming out shortly, but if you would like to get involved then please do get in touch with ruth@timenorfolk.org.uk to register your interest. You can see the official event website here:
http://ukparachuting.co.uk/charity_event/10800/


Training

Here are TimeNorfolk we place high value on the  training of our volunteer practitioners. Coming up soon  we will be providing ‘An Introduction to Counselling Skills’ and also 4 Continuous Professional Development days.
The Introduction to counselling skills will comprise of 4 sessions  and the CPD days will include An Introduction to Grief, Complex Grief, Using creative methods in helping people and How trauma impacts people and how to help them. More information will be available soon but if you are interested please put these dates in your diary:

25/3/17 

22/4/17  

29/4/17 

6/5/17   

3/6/17   

24/6/17 

8/7/17   

15/7/17 

If you would like to register your interest in any of the above training please email training@timenorfolk.org.uk


Thank You!

client quote photo

We would like to say a big Thank You to our financial supporters! 
Your monthly donations allow us to continue to provide our service of support to men and women who have suffered a loss for who ‘overcoming a loss is not a neat straight line’.
By giving on a monthly basis you allow us to plan ahead, knowing what financial support we will receive in the coming months. If you would like to become a financial supporter please visit our website here https://timenorfolk.org.uk/donate/#toggle-id-1 or email fundraising@timenorfolk.org.uk

Autumn 2016 Newsletter

I have just returned from a lovely holiday in the Lake district (hence the picture) and on writing this hope you are enjoying this exceptional Autumn weather.

couple sitting togetherOctober was a really busy month for us, holding 2 exciting new events and a training event. Firstly we held a Loss of a Baby Awareness day at Greenacres,  75 healthcare professionals and funeral directors  recently received free training to promote understanding around baby loss from TimeNorfolk, in partnership with GreenAcres Colney.

The day-long Loss of a Baby Awareness Day course was held at GreenAcres Colney (formerly Colney Woodland Burial Park) on Monday 10th October, during Baby Loss Awareness Week.
Delegates from across the county heard talks and presentations from TimeNorfolk staff and past clients, Anne Beckett-Allen of Rosedale Funeral Home, Dr Xenia Tyler, Consultant Cellular Pathologist at NNUH, and Jane Nursey of the NNUH Chaplaincy.
Bob and Tracey McGurrell of the charity 4Louis travelled from Tyne & Wear to demonstrate their memory boxes, which they provide free of charge to bereaved parents who suffer a stillbirth or neonatal death.
The aim of the day was to improve awareness and understanding of the issues around the death of a baby, bringing professionals from many different organisations together to share best practice.

Our second event on the 13th October was a Doorway of Hope Service which was held at Norwich Cathedral, it was attended by 145 people.
It was a very moving service including prayer, readings, a grief and healing dance, two personal stories of loss by a past volunteer and a practitioner, also Emma Nuule sang two soprano songs.
People were invited to come forward and light tea lights and were also asked to come forward and receive a candle which was lit by Canon Andy Bryant who lead the service, these could be taken away which would act as a memory.
Our new TimeNorfolk Book of Remembrance which was signed by many people who had losses.  This book will be kept in the office and used for future clients when they have finished their work with us. We have already had two new clients from this event who had not known about us before.
We hope to build on these events and have been asked to hold them in 2017.

candles

book open

A very successful training morning at Cruse Bereavement charity took place on 29thOctober, this was attended by 17 Cruse volunteers at Chapelfield Methodist Church.  Letitia and myself ran the morning and Linda Bell very kindly came to tell her story.  We received very good feedback from the event and felt that the Cruse volunteers thoroughly enjoyed their time with us and found it very informative.

practitioners Aimee from GorlestonLastly, I would like to say Congratulations to one of our practitioners Aimee from Gorleston, who got married on the 8th October.  Aimee is honeymooning in Australia!!  We wish Aimee and her new husband lots of love and happiness.

lesley


Big Christmas Wrap 2016

TimeNorfolk Big Christmas Wrap!

On 10th December we will be setting up shop at St.Stephens Church in Norwich City Centre between 10am – 4pm. We are hoping to catch lots of shoppers coming out of Chapelfield Shopping Centre with bags full of gifts ready for us to wrap in return for a donation! If you would like to volunteer on the day or donate some wrapping paper or gift tags please email ruth@timenorfolk.org.uk


still loved film

TimeNorfolk have the privilege of hosting a screening of ‘Still Loved’ at Cinema City, Norwich
on 7th December at 6pm.

‘Over three years we explore the complexity and reality for families surviving baby loss. Giving an unexpected voice to bereaved fathers, who speak candidly for the first time providing an additional perspective to that offered by mothers, grandparents and siblings. This is a brave, inclusive and ultimately life affirming film, for anyone that has ever, or will ever, lose someone they love’

For more information about the film and to watch a trailer visit www.stilllovedfilm.com

For the screening to go ahead we need to sell 26 tickets before 27th November, if you would like to come please could you buy your tickets ASAP. Click here to buy: https://www.ourscreen.com/screening/42726


Annabeth GraduationWe recently said goodbye to Annabeth as she moves onto new things.

‘I graduated recently in London with a 1st class honours degree from the Open University.

In November I’m going to be starting an internship with International Justice Mission, an anti-slavery charity, doing fundraising.’


Meet Jackie

Allow me to introduce myself. My name is Jackie and I have been a volunteer practitioner with ‘TimeNorfolk’ since April 2016. I havent always worked in counselling, until July I had been a secondary school English teacher beginning my teaching career in 1990, in the North West of England. I finally returned to East Anglia having grown up in Suffolk, in 1998 I moved to Norwich in 2004 as my husband had been posted to Coltishall in 2001.
JackieI took the decision to begin training as a counsellor in 2010 after a long illness. It was an area  I had always been interested in as I have always been a ‘people person’ and someone my colleagues could always confide in. I started my training with MATRIX and began volunteering at NORCAS in 2012, moving to the Norfolk Recovery Partnership in 2013 where I was counselling recovering addicts.
I finally graduated in July of this year and took voluntary redundancy from Sewell Park Academy, I have since taken up my first paid counselling post as a Youth Counsellor with MAP. So my 26 years of working with young people is coming in very handy!
I’m thoroughly enjoying both my counselling roles at MAP and here at TimeNorfolk. It is a great organisation that does amazing work and I feel honoured to be doing my bit!


A date for your diary

On 11th June we have the priviliedge of holding a garden party in the Bishops Garden. Put the date in your diary and we will give you more details nearer the time…


During Baby Loss Awareness Week 2016 we took part in an online campaign to #breakthesilence around baby loss by sharing a story from one of our clients each day.

Catch up on these beautiful, moving and hopeful stories here:

https://timenorfolk.org.uk/news/baby-loss-awareness-week-2016/


hadrians wall 2

On 17th September 2016 a team from Feilden+Mawson, a local architects firm undertook a 26 mile trek along the iconic UNESCO World Heritage Site of Hadrian’s Wall and raised £2,183.79 for TimeNorfolk!

‘The adventure started on Friday when the Norwich, Cambridge and London offices boarded their respective minibuses for the journey up to Northumberland. The day of the trek started early on Saturday leaving the bunkhouse at 6:30am to get to the start at Chesters Roman Fort at Chollerford in good time to set off at 7:30am.

The weather for the day couldn’t have been better with bright sunshine and blue skies all day.  The group split during the day as the trek progressed and unfortunately injuries meant that not everybody completed the 26 miles, however Lanercost Priory near Brampton was a welcome sight for the finishers, coming in at between 10 hours and 12.5 hours!’

Summer 2016 Newsletter

I hope you have all been enjoying the summer weather; upon writing this I find it hard to believe that the fields are now yellow and giant straw bales decorate our lovely Norfolk landscape.

TimeNorfolk continues to be very busy with new clients, new volunteers and new members of staff. It is very much a time of change within the organisation which feels really positive. We have been invited to give a training morning with Cruse in October, and Hope into Action have also approached us to give a talk early in 2017 to their volunteers.

harvested field

I would like to welcome Fred Bradfield and Ruth Kettle to our team. Fred has been in post for 8 weeks and so far seems to be surviving in a female environment! Ruth has joined us this week which is really exciting, and you will read more about her in the next newsletter. We wish her and Fred well in their new posts and their time at TimeNorfolk.

lesley


I have recently taken over from Jo Ford as Head of Administration (what shoes to try and step into).

fredI am married to Lesley (Head of Operations) and we have four children and numerous grandchildren (too many to count between the ages of 20 and 3).

I worked for 20 years in IT with Norwich Union and prior to joining TimeNorfolk was a Funeral Director with Rosedale looking after the Suffolk branches. It is with great joy to have been able to become part of what is an amazing charity and both Lesley and I know how God has played a very big hand in it.

I enjoy most sports, especially football albeit the boots are now well and truly hung up. I enjoy gardening, cinema, theatre, walking and spending time with Lesley and the family. I do occasionally like to read although, as Lesley will tell you, a single book can take me anything up to a year to finish!! I am also a council member for the BSPA (coloured horses), which takes me around the country attending the shows and doing some stewarding.

Fred


My name is Alice Barham.

Alice BarhamI have recently graduated from UEA, where I studied English Literature with Creative Writing alongside being a mum to my seven-year-old son, Oliver.

I first came to TimeNorfolk as a client last year and after several months of weekly group therapy sessions, I finally felt happy again.

When I finished my degree, I wanted to put my newfound ‘free’ time to good use. I met with Lesley to talk about coming back as a volunteer, and I have been coming in once a week since July.

It is lovely to be able to contribute to such an incredible charity, and be part of such a wonderful team. I look forward to the journey ahead.


Jackie

It’s been great to have Jackie join us recently as a practitioner.

She will tell you more about herself in the next newsletter!


Bake Off


FuzionThetford

We had a great time at FuzionThetford on 13th August. There were lots of fun things to see and do, and the day was a great success.

The dog agility Lesley ran was very popular, as was our ‘Name the Bear’ competition.

Huge thanks go to the organisers of FuzionThetford for doing such a brilliant job and for choosing us as one of their charities!

FuzionThetford 1 FuzionThetford 2


Freya’s Story

Freya ChaneyMy name is Freya Chaney and I grew up in a small coastal Norfolk village named Happisburgh with a very supportive network of family and friends. I remained in Norfolk for most of my childhood, eventually going onto study Law at the University of East Anglia. Although this was an interesting and mentally challenging degree for me, I found that it wasn’t where my passion lay and so I went onto travel Europe whilst thinking about the different career paths that I could embark on. On returning from Europe, I began working for Virgin Money in Norwich, and eventually became the Charity Champion for the store; having a predominant involvement with local charities and hosting fundraising events to help out. My sister Carys works as a Radiographer at the Norfolk and Norwich Hospital which brought about my interest in a career in the NHS. This inspired me to attend a Midwifery workshop hosted by a private Midwife in November 2015 to learn more about Midwifery as a career.

My initial relationship with TimeNorfolk began in the winter of 2015 when I took on a volunteering role for the charity. It had always been fairly apparent that I wanted to work with people in a role that was meaningful; helping people in vulnerable situations, and working with TimeNorfolk naturally furthered my interest into a career in Midwifery, whilst giving a great insight into the more sensitive side of the role. In January 2016 I left England to travel the sandy beaches of Australia for 3 months, but applied for a place at the UEA as a Student Midwife before I left. Luckily enough, come spring time I received the email from UEA offering a Skype interview which I successfully attended and duly begin my studies in September 2016. I’m very excited for my career prospects to come and am looking forward to working alongside TimeNorfolk in the future and will keep you updated with my Midwifery Training.