A Word from Lesley
I can hardly believe that as I am writing this article it is nearly Christmas and 2018 is ending. What a busy year it has been for TimeNorfolk with many changes. In March we were joined by our new Head of Counselling, Lindsey Nettleton. In September/October 5 new practitioners were trained and unfortunately in November we said goodbye to Ruth Kettle our fundraiser/events co-ordinator. The demand for our services continues and the percentage of referrals from the hospitals and health professionals is increasing.
We held our annual Baby Loss Awareness training day in October at Greenacres. This was attended by over 60 Health Professionals and Funeral Directors. This was very successful with high scores from the attendees on the evaluation sheets. Our Doorway of Hope Service in October was attended by over 100 people, it was a very moving and sensitive service and very encouraging to have people stay after the service to join us for a coffee and to speak to the TimeNorfolk team.
At the beginning of December, I received a letter from the EDP Stars of Norfolk Awards stating that TimeNorfolk was a finalist. I, Lindsey and Fred attended the awards ceremony, what a very humbling evening and a privilege to meet with and learn more about the different charities and people who were winners and finalists. Here in Norfolk there are so many amazing and selfless people.
I am sure you are all aware that TimeNorfolk will be opening an office in Gt. Yarmouth, I have been spending time there meeting with other organisations and am pleased to say that at the time of writing we are in the middle of securing premises which is very exciting. Watch this space!
I wish you all a blessed Christmas and a Peaceful 2019 and thank you for all your support in 2018.
Since our last newsletter we have had our new volunteer’s training course that ran through September, October and into November. Over eight weeks we explored how TimeNorfolk supports clients through their grief whether as a result of miscarriage, stillbirth or termination. Despite the emotional nature of the topics the evening training sessions were enjoyable due to the enthusiasm and engagement of the participants.
Following the completion of this course we are pleased to welcome back Sue supporting clients on a Wednesday evening and are grateful to have Olivia, Vicky, Grainne and Amber all beginning to support clients through 1-1 support or co-facilitating groups in the new year.
We now hope to run the course again and have some people already waiting to start in the Spring of 2019. This is hugely encouraging as our referrals continue to rise and we are keen to meet the needs of those seeking support as swiftly as possible.
Continuing Professional Development
We also had a Continuing Professional Development Day for new and existing volunteers at the end of November. This day included sessions on how to support clients at risk of suicide and how to support clients pregnant following a loss. But for me the highlight was having Kari Kordomeikel, the Bereavement Midwife from NNUH, come to introduce herself and share her plans for a Rainbow Clinic at the Hospital. It was hugely encouraging to hear of the changes she is making and the care that parents will have received directly from her, or as a result of her efforts, before they reach us.
Next year we are planning some further CPD in the Spring to increase our ability to support bereaved couples. Currently at TimeNorfolk, bereaved parents are seen together for their initial appointment and then separately for 1-1 support. For many this would be their choice but for those who would like to be supported as a couple we are planning to be able to offer this after Easter as a result of having a highly experienced external trainer in to develop our skills in this important area.
Past Client’s Story
Below is piece recently written for an article in the EDP by a previous client to raise the profile of the new Bereavement Suite at the NNUH. TimeNorfolk have a Virgin Money Givingpage (www.virginmoneygiving.com/fund/NNUHMaternityBereavementSuite), the money raised from this will go towards the new bereavement suite at the NNUH along with other money received by TimeNorfolk from funding bids.
It was on my due date that I felt reduced movements from my baby. I went to the hospital where I was given a scan and given the news no parent wants to hear ‘my baby had died’. When I delivered Luna-Mai my daughter I was in the room at the end of delivery suite which was the bereavement room that they had then, it was very clinical. It was so difficult having to walk past all the normal delivery rooms to one at the end of the corridor knowing there were woman in labour with their babies.
It was extremely difficult for my family who were coming to visit me, Ryan and Luna-Mai as they were having to walk past happy families leaving with their babies too. If there was a bereavement suite away from the normal delivery it would give the family that extra peace needed at such a terrible time. When I was in the late stages of labour with Luna-Mai I heard a new born baby cry and it was just an added heartache to what I was already enduring. This suite could really make the difference for bereaved families helping them get through such a devastating time.”
At the end of December, we say goodbye to being Howe’s Percival’s charity of the year. It has been a pleasure to work with them, they have been so supportive of us – a big THANK YOU for all the money they have raised from all at TimeNorfolk.
Our TimeNorfolk Christmas cards have been selling well. Thank you to Tessa Killingbeck for designing them and to Swallowtail printers for donating the printing of them.
TimeNorfolk was invited to display a tree amongst other charities at St. Peter Mancroft church in Norwich this was on display between the 29th November and the 3rd December.