A Word from Lesley
Last time I wrote to you it was snowing and now is is a little more like spring, despite the rain there is an amazing backdrop of greenery and everything bursting forth.
I would like to welcome to TimeNorfolk our new Head of Counselling, Lindsey Nettleton. Lindsey has been with us now for eight weeks and is settling in well. I am sure Lindsey will be a great asset to TimeNorfolk, Lindsey introduces herself later in this newsletter.
Here at TimeNorfolk we continue to be busy with new clients coming through in a steady stream, our termination support group is three quarters of the way through and is proving to be very successful. We have four new volunteers, Olivia is one of these and has started by coming into the office to help with administration and will then go on to become a placement student and support clients face to face. I was thinking at the time of writing this article what amazing volunteers we have and how they have been with TimeNorfolk for a considerable amount of time. Thank you to all of our volunteers!
As well as busy being with clients we know that raising awareness of pregnancy loss and the work of TimeNorfolk is important too. Lindsey accompanied me recently to a GP surgery to deliver a presentation to medical students about the work that we do, and how loss can affect our clients. We also have a group of student health visitors coming into TimeNorfolk in May for some training.
There is lots more to tell you about the good things that have been going on and that are coming up so do read to the end!
Thank you for all your support!
Bereavement Suite Update
The Norfolk & Norwich University Hospital has appointed a full-time bereavement midwife for the first time. Lesley has met with her and feels excited about how passionate she is about her new role, she has a wealth of experience which can only be of benefit to patients that have suffered a loss.
Lesley will be working with the new bereavement midwife on the Bereavement Suite. There have been two planning meetings about the suite and Lesley hopes to see two Bereavement Suites in different parts of the country to see how they work. This is a much needed part of the Maternity Unit at the NNUH and may help parents and our clients during what is a very traumatic experience for them.
Miles in May Begins Tomorrow!
Miles In May 2018 starts tomorrow and it’s not too late to sign up if you’d like to take part!
Could you challenge yourself this May to complete an amount of miles that is significant to you, in memory of a little one gone too soon or to raise awareness of the work of TimeNorfolk.
Gemma is taking part and says:
‘Time Norfolk helped me through a very sad time. I’m doing this to raise money for them so they can continue to help others who’ve experienced such loss. I’m also doing this in memory of my little angel – to make him proud.’
For full information and to sign up please visit https://timenorfolk.org.uk/milesinmay2018
New Head of Counselling Lindsey Nettleton
Hi, I’m Lindsey. I joined the TimeNorfolk family 8 weeks ago at the beginning of March. I am a BACP Registered Counsellor with 20 years of experience working therapeutically with men and women in the community, in prisons and in residential settings, mainly in terms of treatment for addiction. I live locally in Norwich with my husband and two young daughters.
I am finding the work here so varied and am enjoying developing relationships with volunteers, staff and clients. The nature of engaging with those suffering pregnancy loss is inevitably emotional. I am invariably moved by the rawness of grief and each client’s vulnerability in their experience of birth and death. It is a great privilege and responsibility to be witness to, it is my hope that our capacity to companion others through their darkest moments may help them feel that bit less alone.
I have been so impressed by the commitment and passion of the volunteers who give so much more than time to the work. Their enthusiasm for TimeNorfolk and genuine care for one another speaks volumes of the love that has been invested and nurtured here for years. I hope to add to that investment by encouraging and developing training opportunities for those working with clients. At the moment there is a focus on developing training for new volunteers but also looking ahead to Continuing Professional Development days for volunteers and those in the wider community. Pregnancy loss affects so many, I have heard several times during the past few weeks how painful it is for those grieving to not have their loss recognised and respected by society. Seeing how Lesley advocates for our client’s needs within hospitals and the wider community is exciting, as we hope to influence those with the means to make improvements to the care of others when they are at their most vulnerable.
Past Client Story
‘My time at TimeNorfolk has been filled with ups and downs, from the first session I attended to the last one –to-one. Our sessions veered from sobbing, choking tears when I struggled to find the words, to laugher and love, and very bittersweet and difficult emotion in-between. I have worked to recognise, understand and process my feelings, thoughts and events. Things that I could not do with anyone else. I am still dealing with some echoes of ‘what ifs’, feelings of guilt and responsibility, and recognising that there may always be a part of me with my babies. That I will never be the same as before I became a mum – the first, second, third, fourth or fifth time – but I now realised that I am still me, just a changed me. That this different ‘me’ has grown in so many ways because of my babies, because of each and everyone
I now recognise the strength and resilience I have build throughout the past 6 or more years. I recognise that strength comes, in part, from allowing myself time and space to feel those feelings which I had hidden away. To give them their own space, to recognise them and express them in the way I can. I have also come to realise that I am still working through things, but now I have the awareness and skills to do that, and this may be a lifelong journey. Because, and most importantly for me, I now realise how I can live with all my babies around me – those present physically or spiritually – and that they will always be part of me and have made me into the person I am today.‘
TimeNorfolk Sky Dive
Could you take to the skies in aid of TimeNorfolk!?
We have a group of brave people lined up to take part in a tandem sky dive on 7th July, would you like to join them?
Harriet took part last year and says:
‘I had an amazing time seeing all of Norfolk and Suffolk from the air all at once. It was a very easy process with a lovely instructor who does all the work! I would definitely go again!!’
For full details click here: https://timenorfolk.org.uk/skydive2018
TimeNorfolk at the London Marathon
On 22nd April Chrissie ran the 26.2 miles around the London Marathon in aid of TimeNorfolk.
It was the hottest London Marathon on record and Chrissie had been struggling with an injury but she still ran those stars to the finish line and we are all very proud of Chrissie here at TimeNorfolk!
Chrissie was carrying 12 very precious stars on her vest, each star represented a little one gone too soon. Thank you to everybody who sponsored a star, or supported Chrissie in any way throughout her training and on the day.
Running a marathon is a huge commitment and we would like to say a huge thank you to Chrissie for the time, energy and creativity she has put into running the London Marathon in aid of TimeNorfolk.
If you would still like to support Chrissie it is not too late, you can find her sponsorship page along with some of her updates here: https://uk.virginmoneygiving.com/ChrissieBoswell
Vintage Coffee Morning
One of our supporters Sam, is hosting a Vintage Coffee Morning on 21st July at Poringland Village Hall 9am-11.30 am in aid of TimeNorfolk!
Get the date in your diary & pop along on the day for some delicious cake, all in aid of TimeNorfolk!
Howes Percival Charity of 2018
Our friends at Howes Percival have been busy fundraising in aid of TimeNorfolk, including holding a pancake day sale, a bake sale, a formula one sweepstake and raffling a signed NCFC shirt. (With thanks to Alan Boswell Group for the generous donation of the shirt!)
The charity committee at Howes Percival are absolutely fantastic and have lots more fundraising ideas up their sleeves for the rest of 2018. Thank you Howes Percival!!
Can we keep in touch?
New laws relating to data protection (will be known as GDPR – General Data Protection Regulation) come into force on 25th May 2018 and here at TimeNorfolk we are working hard to ensure that we are compliant!
One of the ways that we are working to be compliant is to ensure that we have your consent to send you our newsletters and news of exciting events coming up.
If you would like to stay in the loop with all TimeNorfolk is doing to support those who have suffered pregnancy loss we need to ask you to sign up again to our mailing list.
If you have already responded to an email asking you to sign up again in response to new regulations – thank you! You don’t need to sign up again.